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愛(ài)與悔：希望沒(méi)有生過(guò)孩子的母親們
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愛(ài)與悔：希望沒(méi)有生過(guò)孩子的母親們

Love and regret: mothers who wish they’d never had children

愛(ài)與悔：希望沒(méi)有生過(guò)孩子的母親們

‘I don’t think it was worth it.” Tammy is a mother who wishes she hadn’t been. “Don’t get me wrong, I love my kids. But it comes at a huge cost; mentally, emotionally and physically.”

“我認為不值得?！盩ammy是一位母親，但她希望自己不是?！皠e誤會(huì )，我愛(ài)我的孩子。但這帶來(lái)了巨大的犧牲；精神上的，情感上的和生理上的?！?/font>

Writing anonymously on feminist website the Vagenda, Tammy says: “My body was ruined, I had to have surgeries later in life to repair what was done to me by forcing an almost 9lb child through my body.

在女性網(wǎng)站Vagenda上，Tammy匿名寫(xiě)道：“我的身體被毀了，我不得不在后來(lái)做手術(shù)，修補生下近乎9鎊重的孩子之后身體的損傷?！?/font>

And worse yet, it seems as though expressing this honestly makes me a monster ... It seems as though your entire self becomes nothing more than a functional enabler for your kids’ success.”

而更糟糕的是，似乎誠實(shí)地表達這種想法讓我成為了怪獸……似乎你自己的整個(gè)生命變成了除了能夠把你孩子成功撫養之外一無(wú)是處?！?/font>

So why do women regret having children?

為什么有的女性后悔生孩子呢？

Last year, Orna Donath, an Israeli sociologist published a study based on interviews with 23 Israeli mothers who regret having had children.

去年，以色列社會(huì )學(xué)家Orna Donath在基于對23名以色列后悔生了孩子的母親的采訪(fǎng)而發(fā)表研究論文。

In it she argues that while motherhood “may be a font of personal fulfillment, pleasure, love, pride, contentment and joy”, it “may simultaneously be a realm of distress, helplessness, frustration, hostility and disappointment, as well as an arena of oppression and subordination”.

研究中她指出，雖然母親“是自我實(shí)現，快樂(lè )，愛(ài)，自豪，滿(mǎn)足和愉悅的形式”，它“同時(shí)屬于壓力，無(wú)助，挫折，敵意和失望的范疇，并且是壓迫和服從的競技場(chǎng)?！?/font>

But the purpose of this study was not to let mothers express ambivalence towards motherhood, but to provide a space for mothers who actually have “the wish to undo motherhood”, something that Donath describes as an “unexplored maternal experience”.

然而研究的目的不是讓母親表達對母親身份的矛盾，而是為那些事實(shí)上“希望不是母親”的母親提供空間，正如Donath描述的“未被探究的母性經(jīng)歷”。

“The ideological impetus to be a mother,” as Donath describes it, can be found across all walks of society and is founded on the powerful conception that complete female happiness can only be achieved through motherhood.

“成為一個(gè)母親的意識形態(tài)沖動(dòng)”發(fā)生在社會(huì )各個(gè)角落，而且是基于一個(gè)強勢的概念，那就是女性必須通過(guò)成為母親而達到完整的幸福，Donath說(shuō)。

Those who seek to challenge this narrative face overwhelming opposition, which makes an honest, open debate difficult.

那些對這個(gè)陳述挑戰的人受到強烈的反對，因此誠實(shí)、公開(kāi)的討論難以執行。

Donath speaks of the ideological promises made to prospective mothers about the joys of raising children, and of the “simultaneous delegitimisation of women who remain childless”, who are reckoned to be “egoistic, unfeminine, pitiful and somehow defective”.

Donath說(shuō)這個(gè)意識形態(tài)上的承諾讓母親期待撫養孩子的歡樂(lè )，而同時(shí)“使沒(méi)有孩子的女性非法化”，這些人被認為“自私，不女性化，可憐而有一些缺陷”。

I am a mother, too, and while I don’t regret it, I can deeply sympathise with women who feel betrayed by the eternal myth that enjoying motherhood is a biological predisposition.

我也是一位母親，雖然我不后悔，但我能夠深深地同情那些被享受母親身份是一種生物上的素質(zhì)這個(gè)雋永的神話(huà)所背叛的女性的感受。

And I wonder if I would have chosen to be a mother had I not been indoctrinated all my life to believe that motherhood is the only thing that will complete my happiness. I’m not so sure.

而如果我沒(méi)有被灌輸母親身份是唯一一個(gè)可以讓我的幸福完整的觀(guān)念，我不確定自己是否會(huì )選擇成為母親。

Donath’s aim is simple: she wants to allow mothers to live motherhood as a subjective experience, one that can combine love and regret, one that will be accepted by society, no matter how it looks.

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