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有關(guān)離婚后約會(huì )的專(zhuān)家建議
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2017/3/27 11:25:55

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有關(guān)離婚后約會(huì )的專(zhuān)家建議

1) Figure out if you really are ready.

1）想清楚自己是否已準備好接受新戀情。

Whether it's been one year or six since the divorce decree, you may never know with absolute clarity that you're truly ready for another relationship. Instead, "it's usually clear when you're not ready," says Susan Pease Gadoua, a therapist and author of Stronger Day by Day: Reflections for Healing and Rebuilding After Divorce. That is, "when the very idea turns you off." But you can decide that you're ready to at least try. Once the idea of going on a date comes into your mind and you don't want to chase it out again, you're at least ready to start, she says. If it's truly awful, take a step back and wait some more.

不管是離婚了一年還是六年，你可能永遠都不確定是否真的準備好了迎接一份新戀情。相反，“通常當你還未準備好的時(shí)候，你會(huì )很清楚，”蘇珊?皮塞?加杜阿說(shuō)道，她是一位治療師，也是《日益堅強：關(guān)于離婚后治愈和恢復的反思》（Stronger Day by Day: Reflections for Healing and Rebuilding After Divorce）一書(shū)的作者。也就是說(shuō)，“這個(gè)想法會(huì )讓你厭煩?！钡阒辽倏梢詻Q定愿不愿意嘗試。一旦想到出去約會(huì )，并且不愿甩掉這個(gè)想法的時(shí)候，至少表明你已準備好嘗試了，她說(shuō)道。如果感覺(jué)真的很糟，那就后退一步繼續等待吧。

2) Feel the fear.

2）感受恐懼。

Contemplating the dating scene, many divorced women feel not just garden-variety nerves, but "actual terror," says Dr. Kirschner. Just remember that your fears are normal—after all, you are dealing with or have dealt with a major betrayal and upheaval—and that you don't have to jump all the way in. "Dip a toe in at a time. Tell a few trusted friends that you're interested in meeting people. Accept invitations to parties."

一想到約會(huì )時(shí)的情景，很多離婚女性不僅緊張，而且會(huì )感到“真正的恐懼?！被┘{博士說(shuō)道。只要提醒自己害怕是正常的就行了——畢竟你正在經(jīng)歷或已經(jīng)歷過(guò)一次重大的背叛和動(dòng)蕩——你也無(wú)須一次傾盡所有?！懊看吻斑M(jìn)一小步。告訴那些你十分信任的極少數朋友：你現在想要約會(huì )。接受別人的邀請，參加派對吧?！?/font>

3) Avoid negative thinking.

3）不要有消極的想法。

While it's not unheard of for a woman wounded by a painful divorce to make statements like "all men are jerks" or "all the good ones are taken," that's obviously not a good mindset to have going into dating, says Dr. Kirschner. "That kind of thinking can tank your mood—and cause you to limit your chances of getting out there and finding love." By forcing yourself to keep your negative thoughts in check, you'll soon be in the habit of thinking optimistically, which will in turn make you more ready to date again. A divorcée may also feel that there's something "wrong" with her since her marriage fell apart, says Dr. Kirschner. If that's the case, start training yourself now to recognize self-sabotaging thoughts, and when self-doubts start to pop up, "visualize a giant red stop sign, or a voice yelling, 'Stop!'" says Dr. Kirschner.

基施納博士說(shuō)道，雖然由于痛苦的離婚而受傷的女性會(huì )說(shuō)“所有的男人都是混蛋”“好男人都被別人挑走了”之類(lèi)的話(huà)，但很明顯，約會(huì )時(shí)帶著(zhù)這種心態(tài)并不是好事?！澳欠N想法會(huì )破壞你的心情——從而導致你從失敗的婚姻中走出來(lái)并找到真愛(ài)的幾率降低?！睆娖茸约翰蝗ハ肽切┫麡O的想法，很快你就會(huì )發(fā)現自己養成了積極思考的習慣，反過(guò)來(lái)這也會(huì )讓你做好準備，接受新的戀情。由于婚姻破裂，離婚女性可能會(huì )覺(jué)得自己“有問(wèn)題”，基施納博士說(shuō)道。如果是這種情況，那就從現在開(kāi)始訓練自己正視這些自毀的想法，每當自我懷疑之際，就“想象眼前出現了一個(gè)巨大的紅色停止標志，或是聽(tīng)到有人在大喊‘停！’” 基施納博士說(shuō)道。

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